After years of exhaustive research, there has been no conclusive proof whatsoever of fidelity and the purchase of jewelry. While the purchase of unbroken bands is tradition for relationships, marital vows are broken unlike the ring bands. "Bigger and more expensive is better", claimed by retailers may not be true. While the overspending, like vehicle prices or home improvement projects are well noted, many people receiving the jewelry can remark usually of who got the piece for them, but attach absolutely no meaning to the piece at all.
Jewelry, it appears, does not guarantee fidelity, respect, admiration, or physical contact. It appears to continue a business of buying and buying, usually more than the purchaser can afford, for "a week's paycheck and a peck on the cheek". + There are no statistics that relate positively, generally, that more yields more. In contrast, though sappy and dreary, many males have coupled their cards with voice-cards playing the song "More Than Words" by Extreme. Hint, hint ... I bought you this, I think you want what I plan (to do).
So those would-be lovers in pursuit ... make yourselves happy, live well, live together, and love. The buy, buy, buy, buy your way to my heart may not be the best course of action. If you think winning affection through debt happens when you court, what happens on each holiday? Christmas, Anniversary of first date (also other firsts), birthdays, Easter, Arbor Day are all "buy me something" days. If you haven't been married, then this was just an FYI.
If the woman you're "in to" behaves like "material girl", this does not disipate after marriage. If you have a job, get another one.
While the allure of over-buying is tempting, better is romance. The industry can't sell, "do something spontaneous, meaningful, catered to your lover's interests". Leave the world behind, extricate yourselves for a bit of time and do something for each other. A long walk, ending with a surprise ... an evening of chick flicks (yes, more than one) with a real fine dinner, candlelight and hugging/holding ... holding hands for 24 hours (yes, in a row) in public, making everyone aware you are a great and loving couple; these are a few ideas.
People -- demanding stuff builds resentment, please don't do it. Expecting a trip to Paris of a guy pulling in $40,000, is unrealistic. Hope high, aim low or "aim small; miss small" ++. A man with a vocation/occupation shouldn't say, I love you with a McDonald's dinner and two fries twisted together making a heart, but less financially stable people will do something a little less fairy tale-like and might do a cheesy, though thoughful (heartfelt) gesture.
Happy planning and have an enjoyable Valentine's day with your loved one! If you are really in love, not just lust, follow your heart, do soemthing special, make that person know you love them by example, not force.
+ "Come Dancing" by the Kinks
++ Patriot, staring Mel Gibson
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