Southern traditions

My folks' friend is now residing in an apartment on a retirement community campus. She had been on the campus for assisted living, but moved on to indepedent living. In the course of learning about her, I understand that she is not the picture of courtesy. Through many anecdotes, it's clear that she holds many bigotries and racist agendas, denying a person merely based on skin. An example of this was her psychologist who reviewed her case so that she could move from assisted to independant living. He is American, but was from Pakistan. Since he wasn't white, she claimed she didn't understand him, though his English might have been better than hers.

Her other derrangement stems from her preference for her dead daughter. When her living daughter visits, very often conversations go back to the dead daughter and how she was better than the living daughter. How cruel and sick. I'm no longer confused as to why her daughter tends to visit rarely, though has a passion and love for her mother. It is my understanding that her daughter had died years (5-12) ago. I understand pain and the difficulty moving on. I don't get punishing the one who lived.

Maybe in the south, they feed people racial hate and resentment with each and every meal. Not all southerners are racially bitter, but often my experience with southerners are stereotypical, wishing for the good ol' days where all folks knew where the races and persons stood. White men on top, white others second, all others below animals. This reminds me of the rift of power in the middle east.